Through the years she had discovered that some people had certain advantages that allowed them to escape the worst consequences of their bad decisions, but she wouldn't call that luck. If she did, she would have to wonder why good luck and bad had not been distributed more equitably, and dwelling upon that was the quickest route to bitterness. Jennifer Chiaverini, Circle of Quilters, Elm Creek Quilts

As my husband has always said, "Life is not fair."

There are so many variables that shape our pinball paths, the balls hitting here or there, stopping, getting knocked around by the "flippers" of life, moved, shifted, adjusted, bells ringing with the good, and finding ourselves stuck in a place where we can't move forward or backward. We all are on a different path. Our choices are important. It seems we grow more when we are in a valley than when we are on the mountaintop, but for each set of circumstances and each person's wiring, it will be different.

"Pinball" by Chris Bordenca

Asperger's wiring has taught me so much throughout my life, most before I was diagnosed at the age of 58, but a better understanding once I could grasp the whys.

It would have been easy to be bitter, but God. Since the wiring is mostly a relationship awkwardness, friends and friend groups are simply something that I am not empowered with the ability to understand. I admire these things in others and I love that they exist. God, in his divine creation of me, needed me to be different. I embrace this and know I am so very blessed. 

We can look at others and be bitter because they do this or that, have this or that, or act this way or that, or we can love and encourage. 

Life may not be fair, but God is. He offers unmerited favor of Salvation through Jesus Christ, the same for me and you. The promise is the same. His Word does not change. He leaves the light on! How we see and understand it is what helps direct our paths.