
I have difficulty understanding people. Where neuro folks are pre-wired to socialize, being neurodivergent, I am not. I enjoy solitude. It is being alone, not being lonely. I love deeply those who I feel accept me with all my differences.
A few things about one having Asperger's. More boys are diagnosed than girls; girls are better at masking. This means that many women live with Asperger's and do not know it. Girls model/mirror others; we fake it till we make it mindset. We move with intellect, not intuition. We camouflage. We are fiction readers because we learn from the social situations found there. For the same reason, many watch soap operas to learn socialization skills, inner thoughts, and feelings. Doll play tends to allow one with Asperger's to play out what they have learned or experienced. We apologize more than we may need to (at least inwardly) and desire to appease.
Many children are "angels" at school/work and not so much when they get home because everything is compressed. We must have time to decompress; release. It is very tiring.
We learn early on that if you are good that you are left alone.
We will be hyper-attentive to a particular interest. We are expert mimics that others won't detect. We fill our minds with thoughts that others may not like the real us or understand our quirks. This takes energy.
We have difficulty explaining our inner feelings. We pretend to be what we perceive as expected (you are our examples, how are you doing at that?). Many deal with depression.
We worry, have phobias, high anxiety, and catastrophic emotions. We have an extra sense that allows us to read between what one says and how they truly feel.
Anything added to the skin creates claustrophobia, and smells are sensed way before others recognize them and become overwhelming.
We recover in solitude; we love the company of an empty room.
We are hyperfocused on a particular interest, then we are bored, and we start over.
We watch the mouth of those speaking to us to read their expression to interpret their emotions. Our eyes may not be able to meet another's eyes as we gather our thoughts in conversation.
We like clothing that doesn't restrict, and determining what to wear each day can be a high stressor.
If you have met one with Asperger's, you have met one with Asperger's. We are all created differently, and our wiring of exceptionality is unique to us.
The hope I have is in Jesus Christ. He saved me when I was six. He has walked with me through salvation since that day. He wired me, and I am thankful for each day he brings me through. He walks with me and talks with me along life's narrow way.
Here is a list of my traits...

These traits are things that might slip into any given time in my life. An Aspie spends countless mental time masking these, so others don't see the reality, and you can imagine how tired and frustrated they might be, especially if they don't understand their wiring. Give Grace.