Sunday, December 31, 2017
Let's Talk. I don't talk about my divine wiring of Asperger's much because it makes no difference really to anyone but me. You can't see it. You can't feel it, and it does not exhaust you, although, I have had someone tell me that I am hard to love. To this I say, I can't imagine Jesus telling me that so why would you?
What distinguishes Asperger’s wiring from classic autism is its less severe symptoms and the absence of language delays. Those with Asperger’s may be only mildly affected, and they frequently have good language and cognitive skills. To the untrained observer, a person with Asperger’s may just seem like a neurotypical person behaving differently.
Those with autism are frequently viewed as aloof and uninterested in others. This is not the case with Asperger’s. Individuals with Asperger’s usually want to fit in and have interaction with others, but often they don’t know how to do it or feel there is a wall that they can't knock down to get there. They may be socially awkward, not understand conventional social rules or show a lack of empathy. They may have limited eye contact, seem unengaged in a conversation and not understand the use of gestures or sarcasm.
Their interests in a particular subject may border on the obsessive. They often like to collect categories of things. They may be proficient in knowledge categories of information, such as statistics or say the Latin names of flowers. They may have good rote memory skills but struggle with abstract concepts.
One of the major differences between Asperger’s and autism is that, by definition, there is no speech delay in Asperger’s. In fact, those with Asperger’s frequently have good language skills; they simply use language in different ways. Speech patterns may be unusual, lack inflection or have a rhythmic nature, or can be formal, but too loud or high-pitched. Those wired with Asperger’s may not understand the subtleties of language, such as irony and humor, or they may not understand the give-and-take nature of a conversation.
Another distinction between Asperger’s and autism concerns cognitive ability. While some individuals with autism have intellectual disabilities, by definition, a person with Asperger’s cannot have a “clinically significant” cognitive delay, and most possess average to above-average intelligence.
There are many known behaviors, but every person is different and may or may not have the same combination of behaviors.
I think you would be surprised at the number of adults who we label as "odd" that very well could be wired as Asperger's different. I think the one thing that I have learned on this journey is that God remains steadfast. He has been with me since I was six and he has carried me, pushed me, loved me, guided me, disciplined me, embraced me, used me, and when others cannot accept me, he does. I have felt led to let several people leave my life to save them from the struggle of "dealing" with me. None have returned. God loves me. Jesus is my constant friend. He has this.
Don't get me wrong. God has placed loving and sincere friends in my life that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt love me unconditionally. You know who you are. Thank you for sticking with me in this revelation. There are eternal rewards.
The energy it takes for survival can only be attributed to my God who gives.
As I start 2018, it is my purpose to love those that God places in my life for his purpose in the best way that I can. Diligence. He wired me. He knows my limitations, and I struggle with them every day, but he has a plan. I trust. I can't go wrong with Him in my heart.
My hope for you is joy, joy in the Lord.
Fresh Find: I enjoy my coffeemaker so much and look, a cold brewer!!!